People believe what they believed because of what they taught them. My family taught me men should be the head of the household because men are dowered with special qualities by the order of creation, and since their ability of logic is stronger than women, they are considered the guardians of their families. I’ve grown up in a Patriarchal family, my family taught me a man should support his family, ready the ground of their happiness and turn the house into a paradise.
A man who supports his family should treat a woman like a diamond and know women is also a human being as a man and she also has the same right as a man.’The Prophet of Allah (S) stated: “Man is the guardian of his family and every guardian has responsibilities towards those under his guardianship.’ For what my culture had taught me Patriarchal Family is not just about male dominant but is about turn the darkness of the house into the light. I interviewed my mom, who is my angel. She had gone through a lot, she teaches me patience and hope. I interviewed her, how does the idea of the patriarchal family contribute to her life.
In addition, my mom was married at the age of 14 years old. Because of the man of the head of the houses which is her father, tell her she has to get married. She accepted what her father said without saying any word. She didn’t want to get married, and there was no one who could convince her father. She lost her mother when she was a child, she cries but no one seems to care, she always hides her pain but when she smiles they think she’s in a habit of smiling. Furthermore, my mom get married, she had a chance that her in-laws were nice to her but the rest of the family are the one who always keeps her in the dark.
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I interviewed her how does the concept of the patriarchal family contribute to her life? I was shocked when she said “ women should always follow what the eldest man said for her own good. Women should always be open and close to their family and always look after them. I followed the footsteps of what the eldest said and I didn’t regret anything.” The fact that I am shocked is that women are often excluded from politics because of their reputations of being just “housewive”.
The cult of domesticity command that a woman’s place is in the home, so rather than making stuff, the job of a woman was to enable their husbands, to make stuff, by providing food and make the house clean, but also showing love and friendship to their husband. What about women opinion aren’t they matter? I won’t blame my mom for anything because of this what they taught her and before she was born this ideal was already set up.
As a result, the patriarchal family does not only happen in Latin America but also around the world. Some people see the benefit of a patriarchal family but some do not. My mom sees the benefit of it because she is where she is today by following the oldest division. She also said “ this is my culture and this is what I believe. This idea has already been created before I was born, before my grandmother and my great-grandfather was born. If I would able to change it I will probably add matriarchy.” How can we change is it, is there a way we can change something that had been created before we were born?
