People have presence changes of the twentieth century and the twentieth-first and they know that there is a constant evolution of changes in general. The changes are tied to the appetite of change to promote success in family matters. Parents that are interested in succeeding worried about educating themselves and helping society to put into practice an improved quality of lifestyle in a highly competitive world, specifically within the United States.
Known as intensive mothering, helicopter parenting, overparenting and many other definitions that study the behavior of parents towards their kids. A vast flow of ideas that surrounds the web and people had a desire to increase their awareness of the effects of a becoming “intensive” or related in the performance of their children. However, there are good and bad consequences in the way people promote success. Some people decide that the way there were raised is the best way to teach their kids, other people prefer to ponder themselves and change to improve how they were raised. Even politician and sociologist have intervened the role of the parents (Furedi, 2009). The rise of intensive parenting has been occurred due to many reasons and the effects are becoming more visible as well.
People are looking forward to helping their kids to have and bring about more of what they could have if they had had some advantages. For example, people that learn skills like languages in emersion schools are more capable of getting a better job. The idea of Intensive parenting comes from the need to prepare kids to succeed. The definition of intensive parenting that can be found as overparenting in the Cambridge online dictionary is “too much involvement by parents in their lives of their children so that they try to help with or control everything that happens to the child”.
Success is defined by Cambridge online dictionary as “the achieving of desired results, or someone or something that achieves positives results”. The desire to reach a better lifestyle is the desire of all classes in society but highly in done in middle-high class (Thomas, Zimmer, 2007). Those sectors of society where parents have lacked services, love, schooling and many other basic needs are willing to give anything to help out their kids to reach those goals. Most of the researchers of the matter have focused on the negative effects, but there is good coming form the need to give support to children.
A positive effect is the need to look for assistant to become better parents the study of Fiona Shirani and colleges (2011) shows that first, parents, especially mothers, are looking for help in “risk management and life planning” intending to become capable to know how to act in case of risk and in a high schedule life. Being able to be on top of things is essential for an intense parent in order to accomplish such hard labor to educating a child. Education in the past as shown in the research of Shirani shows that mothers have bigger participation of educational consumption since they are the ones that have more contact in daily basis with children. Fathers are being more involved, especially when the level of education is higher, and the economic situation is better at home.
Another positive effect in intensive parenting is described in the research by Holly Schiffrin and colleges (2014) indicates that are activities that develop qualities in children. Some activities like reading at home and having a close communication develop better qualities from cognitive, physical and social qualities. These qualities improve when the participation of both parents are well developed and there is a mutual communication, resulting in the improvement of the children skills (Shirani, et all, 2011; Schiffrin, et all, 2014).
On the other side, there is a large content of studies that show that mothers and parents, in general, suffer mental disorders like anxiety and depression caused by worrying and dedicating time to develop well-raised kids (Schiffrin, et all, 2013; Shirani, et all, 2012). The research of Rizzo adds a better understanding of the mental consequences that women carry for being the “Essential” parent. A few causes are the need of help or lower involvement of the spouse. Lower life achievement, lack of skills to manage time and resources and many others (Rizzo et all, 2012), there is never enough time, enough learning, or time for themselves. The side part of this research is that parents still show a higher level of happiness and satisfaction than people with no kids.
Analyzing further studies of new generations is essential today. Adulthood and their success, how they do parenting, satisfaction on mothers and fathers can help invert the results published in research nowadays. Despite the many assets of overparenting that Schiffrin and his team described as follows “…have them participate in activities designed to promote their children’s physical, cognitive, and emotional development… may be seen as a way to ensure health, happiness, and future success for their children” (2014), many adolescents and younger adults suffer the differing outcomes (Rizzo et all, 2012) .
The studies for teams like Rizzo, Schiffrin, Thomas and many researchers have found that having someone ruling all the time is not well received by some children. When the intervention of parents in all the activities is not well applied, results do a “U-shape curve” (Schiffrin, 2014) and can cause many problems in the relation of the family dynamics. Big Part of the adolescents and above population struggle enduring with the conditions of parents who seek for what is best for their offspring. A schedule full of activities and goals can be ineffective when kids have autonomy and are self-reliant.
Schiffrin and her team wrote the next: “Parents who fail to modulate their parenting styles in an age-appropriate manner may quickly find themselves being over-involved rather than appropriately involved” (2014). Some parents have a hard time especially when kids reach the teenager age. Parents sometimes do not have resources and/ or skills to administer counsel and obtain information from experts to cope with the changes in the teenagers. Then the family link suffers even in further stages of life. Other consequences “higher levels of narcissism and entitlement” ( Schiffrin et al , 2014)
There are many outcomes of people involved in intensive parenting. They can define the future of the generations to come and even our present since it is a trait that has been going on for a long period of time by now. As the future generation of fathers and mothers arise there is a need to take care of the way children need to be raised and know the possible outcomes of being an intensive parent.
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